When driving, I enjoy listening to what use to be books
on tape and now is books on CD’s. I
actually listened to all of Moby Dick but usually listen to fiction and
mysteries in particular. I read nonfiction.
It was not unheard for me to sit in a parked car so I could hear the end of a
book! Occasionally, I listen to something else.
In particular, I like to listen to books which will make me a better
mediator. Recently, I listened to “Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married
and the Coupled Up” by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.
She is a scholar on the psychology of women and family
relationships. In Marriage Rules gives
us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.
Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't
talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your
partner's relationship to technology.) She also suggests how to:
• Calm things down and warm them up• Talk straight and fight fair• Listen well as a spiritual practice• Connect with a distant partner• Survive the unique challenges of children,
stepchildren and difficult- laws• Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness• Know how and when to draw the line• Take back your marriage when things fall apart
Marriage Rules suggested many ideas which will help me
when mediating and in particular help resolve impasses.
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