Valentine’s Day blog!
I have previously blogged with unusual tips for saving marriages. See
Netflix and Marriage on August 19, 2009,
http://centerfordivorcemediation.blogspot.com/2009/08/netflix-and-marriage.html
and on April 4, 2008, Two TV Remotes are Better Than One! – Marriage Tips
http://centerfordivorcemediation.blogspot.com/2008/04/two-tv-remotes-are-better-than-one.html I have an even more unusual idea. Men and women enjoy different genre of
movies. Chick flick vs. men’s movies
(there is not a cute name for these)
Wikipedia say, generally, a chick-flick is a film designed to have an
innate appeal to women, typically young women. Some frequent elements of
chick-flicks include having a female protagonist, thematic use of the color
pink (along with metaphorical allusions of the color), and romance and/or
dating based storylines. Some recent
examples are Love Story, An Officer and a Gentleman, Terms of Endearment, Dirty
Dancing, Beaches, Working Girl, Steel Magnolias, When Harry Met Sally, and
Pretty Woman. Men’s movies are usually
action movies. Rambo, Bourne and Rocky.
Need I say more? The problem develops
when a couple wants to go out to the movies. Chick flick or men’s movie. How can you compromise? Take turns?
One person is bound to be unhappy. My solution is simple? A curtain!
The movie theater seating is divided down the middle with a large
curtain. Chick flick on one side of the
curtain and men’s movie on the other.
Couples wanting to each watch a separate move sit on either side of the
curtain, hold hand with a hole in the
curtain and each watches their own movie. Together but separate. For another take on chick flicks see 'Chick Flicks' as Couples Therapy by Tara Parker Pope in the February 11, 2014 New York Times. http://nyti.ms/1ddJmoj
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Recently,
I was driving on the North Shore of Kauai and crossed a one way bridge. There is a yield sign on both ends of the
bridge. Cars must take turns crossing
the bridge. Signs say that it is customary
for no more than 5 to 7 cars to cross at
time. I was amazed that the system
worked. No anger. No abuse. Drivers patiently took their turns
yielding. I wish more people would see
conflict resolution as a one way bridge.
Divorce Mediation, more often is a one way bridge with each party taking
turns yielding so they can each get divorced and continue life's journey. This much better than neither side yielding
and getting stuck facing each other in the middle of the bridge.
As always, you can post any comment about this blog or Divorce Mediation, or
just Mediation by following the directions at the right in the green column or
at the bottom of this website. Learn more about mediation at http://www.center-divorce-mediation.com/
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